“AITAH For Causing My Ex-GF’s Husband (Also, My Previous Best Friend) To Cry At The Bar?” (2024)

I am pretty sure the unwritten (maybe written in some ‘how to keep you friends’ guide) rule that states you can’t date your friend’s ex-partner is very well known to everybody. Well, technically you can, but most probably you will need to choose between dating that person or keeping your friend – it’s almost never possible to have them both.

A similar situation was shared by one Reddit user whose best friend started dating his ex-girlfriend, which led to him setting boundaries and growing apart. After getting married, the friend thought everything would go back to normal; however, he was quickly reminded of the reality.

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When a friend starts dating your ex-partner, it shouldn’t be shocking to realize that the friendship will not be the same

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Man shares that he was in a relationship with his ex-girlfriend for 4 years, which ended due to her cheating and his friend witnessing it

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About 2 years ago, the man’s best friend called him asking if he could start dating his ex-girlfriend, to which he explained that he would just distance himself from them

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A month later, the man’s best friend called him announcing that they were dating, but still wanted him in his life, but the OP held firm with his boundary

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A few days ago, one Reddit user shared his story online asking for community members’ opinion on whether he was in fact being a jerk for telling his ex-girlfriend’s husband, who was once his best friend, that nothing has changed and they won’t be best friends again as they used to, which led to him bawling in front of everyone. The post received a lot of attention, collecting over 6K upvotes.

The original poster (OP) started by explaining that he was in a relationship with Anne for 4 years and ended up breaking up due to her cheating. His best friend Jared was the one who witnessed it and knew the whole situation. Now, about 2 years ago, Jared reached out to OP asking if he could date Anne, to which he answered that he couldn’t tell him who to date or not to date, but he would distance himself from them.

A month later, Jared informed the man that he was dating Anne but still wanted him in his life, but the man stood by his boundary. Fast forward to now, they are married and expecting a kid, while OP is also married, has a kid and is happy. All of them met at another friend’s wedding and had a nice catch-up.

However, the situation slightly took a turn during the afterparty – Jared kept telling the man how much he misses him and loves him and how happy he is that they are going to be best friends again. After a little pause, OP reminded him that nothing has changed, and to probably everyone’s surprise, Jared started bawling in front of everyone around.

The Redditors mostly had a common opinion – that the man didn’t do anything wrong and he set clear boundaries. “NTA. There is no place in your happy life for Anne, and Jared made his choice between the two of you long ago. Your paths diverged,” one user wrote. “He misses you. His marriage probably sucks balls and he knows you’re right. NTA for setting boundaries and keeping them,” another emphasized.

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